Thinking cap is still on, stuck tightly on. This time I'm trying to figure out why the leave-me-alone attitude. And finally after many years of this thinking (positively and negatively) I come up with an answer. An ANSWER which is something I don't usually find. Why do I keep myself to myself, because I have boundaries. We all have boundaries, some have limited little ones, others have more stead fast bigger ones. I am of course of the latter species. Yes I do not want anybody to tell me my hairstyle is better than it was before. I do not want to here if I have gained or lost weight. I really don't care to know if I look my age or not. If I wanted to know, I'd have asked. I actually think I have the right not to be walked up to and be told such stuff. It's invasion of privacy, in simple words LEAVE ME ALONE. For while some may be terrified of being alone and constantly want to have company whether it be good or bad, I don't mind being alone, no I'll rephrase that, I actually like being alone. That also means I don't care for anybody's opinion unless I ask for their opinion. And I don't take opinions from strangers, however well meaning they insist they are. There are few people I can talk to about my fears, my unbalance, my thoughts and feelings. But again I decide who those people are. Never give me leaflets on the street about anything, unless it's to tell me I have won a thousand pounds. There unfortunately are such people who make themselves to look like good-doers, when they actually have a problem of not being able to hold their tongue. Non smokers can grumble of second hand smoke, because it affects them. They can politely ask you to smoke elsewhere but not give a lecture on the hazards of smoking... it is unwanted advice. And sometimes in this same way people feel they can tell you so many other things because you're in their way of what they perceive to be their perfect vision. They don't have that right, look elsewhere. And I'm not taking the if onlys, and the do you know how pretty you are if only you could this and that. I didn't ask for it so shut up.
It took years for the Berlin wall to come crashing down and it was a good thing it did because it affected the lives of people for so many years. But beware of my wall. Because there is no other nice way of putting it, uninvited advice is a transgression of boundaries, and I'm not putting up with any of it.
It took years for the Berlin wall to come crashing down and it was a good thing it did because it affected the lives of people for so many years. But beware of my wall. Because there is no other nice way of putting it, uninvited advice is a transgression of boundaries, and I'm not putting up with any of it.
